Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Group Time!

In October, I attended the Walk To Remember. While I was there I was informed of a support group that is held here. I've never been able to attend because my husband works evenings and of course his day off isn't on the meeting days. Since he's on leave for baby O, he had one of the meeting days off. So, this past monday I was able to attend my first meeting. I've never needed a "support group" for anything.. ever. This, of course, is different though. I thought I would be nervous going into it, but I wasn't. Before I got there, I got lost! This building is cleverly hiden and I drove around FOREVER trying to find it. Once I found the parking lot, I couldn't find where I was supposed to go! lol I had to call my husband, have him go into my email and open up the message from the lady that puts it all together and give me her cell phone number. I called her and found where I was supposed to be.  I was late, but super determined to find this meeting! I'm glad I did! Once I got in there, there was 1 baby lost couple and then a baby lost mommy. All three people were great. They told me their stories and we just talked. When one of the ladies was telling her story, she was so upset.. and had tears. Listening to someone's story when they cry is so hard. Seeing the raw emotion in her was so sad. Now I know how it was (and still is, sometimes) for other people when I tell them my story. I don't cry often when talking about it, occasionally I do though. I'm not a hugging type person, but I really did just want to reach across the table and hug her. I hope they get their rainbow baby soon.. because they are trying. Everyone say a prayer that they get the precious baby soon. I would love to go to a meeting one day and hear her announce that she is pregnant!!!!

I hope to be able to attend another one of the meetings soon. Talking about our babies was so healing.. and comforting. It's so nice to talk to real people with the same "new normal" as you. Nobody understands like another baby lost mommy (and daddy). Talking to your friends is nice, but this is just different.


  1. DH and I attend a meeting once a month, with about the same number of people as were present at yours. It's weird to say that I look forward to those meetings, but I do. It's nice to be able to have candid face-to-face conversation with people that understand. I'm glad you found it helpful!

  2. I'm glad you were able to go. I know I would love to go to a support group but I don't know of any in my area. I know there are some farther away in the bigger cities. It's about a hour drive. I just can't drive that far when I have to get up so early for work the next morning. Maybe I should talk to the bereavement nurse at my hospital and see if she could try to start up the support group again. She tried once but no one came.

  3. I am glad you had the opportunity to go and that it helped you.