It's been a while since I've gotten angry regarding J. Today that changed. We went to speak with the casualty lady on base to have her help us with some paperwork. Throughout our conversation, she told me about 5 times that "there was no birth.." or "since there was no birth.." or something similar. The first time she said it, I thought ok, maybe she meant to say "there was no live birth..", but she kept on with her non-sense of "there was no birth"!!!!!!!!!! I can understand if she said there wasn't a live birth, because there wasn't. But really, no birth? Really? Seriously? OK!? I promise you, casualty lady, there was a birth. Even though I had an epidural, it only numbed the contractions.. I felt every part of J's BIRTH. To be sure I'm not nuts, I had to look up "birth". Yep, I'm right. There was indeed a birth. Maybe not a live birth, but a birth indeed.
Sorry, but I wanted to pick up this womans desk and throw it at her. I wanted to say something to her so bad, but I knew we needed her help and I know me.. when I am angry about something, I have a hard time saying things nicely. So, I had to just shut up. As hard for me as that is...
I don't know why this woman doesn't choose her words more wisely. Ahhhhhhh! Of course her office was the first place we went today, so she set the tone for the rest of our day. Today was such a shitty day and I blame it on her.
I guess there was alot for me to get out today.. since I blogged twice today. I haven't done that for a while. Hope ya'll had a better day than me!!
Kisses to J tonight..
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Hugs to you....You are missing J and that's ok....People should be a little more careful with their words and I pray to God it was not something intentional on this woman's part.....If they only knew how much you hurt....if doesn't stop after the funeral...it doesn't stop when you have a rainbow baby....that pain walks with you everyday for the rest of you life........Thinking of you..
ReplyDeleteWOW, what a horrible thing for someone to say. NO BIRTH, umm clearly there was a birth. Gosh she is only inches away from getting told off, if she doesn't correct her way of speaking. I say once you are done using her for what you need, you write her a letter and bring that to her attention.
ReplyDeleteSorry that you had to deal with such insensitivity. She is someone who has obviously never had to deal with a loss like this in her life. Hope your week only gets better...
ReplyDeleteUgh, I am so sorry you had to deal with that. May all the people who understand where you are coming from overshadow such insensitivity.
ReplyDeleteThat would've upset me and I wish you could've said something to her but I understand why you didn't.
ReplyDeleteOh I would have said somthing! I commend you on your restraint!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry she was like that. You would have thought she would think about what was coming out of her mouth. I would have said something. Kudos to you Tia.
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